When things are going well, you worry if you will lose it. If things are not going well, you wonder when something new will come in to make your life better. The biggest cause of suffering is the assumption that a person, a situation or...

There was a time when I had dreams but had no idea how to make them a reality. I dreamed of finding a true love and doing something meaningful as a career.  I encountered so many obstacles along the way but I kept moving and hoping that things would turn out. Not because I was so sure that they would, but because I couldn’t stand the thought of retreating back to die an unfulfilled life. I wanted to teach about love and personal development. I wanted to write a book on finding love by accessing the subconscious mind, be interviewed as an expert on television and lead workshops around the world. I also wanted to find my own true love but past experience never gave me a hint of hope that it would ever happen. No matter the odds, I kept moving. I remember once when I was at a women’s networking event and I shared my dreams of being a relationship expert. The woman across from me shouted to the rest of the group, “Look at her, she wants to be a relationship expert and she’s not even in a relationship! Isn’t that funny?”  Yes, they all had a good laugh on my account. But, that didn’t stop me. They told me that I didn’t have a Ph.D. so forget about getting a book deal. They told me I couldn’t get interviewed on television because I didn’t have the right credentials or didn’t have the right look. They told me that I wouldn’t find a great guy because after all I was forty and I just needed to settle for good enough. I didn’t listen to them and continued toward my goals.